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Why Can't My Wife Get Motivated?
 

Toshiero
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Join date: May 2008
Posts: 234

leith06 wrote:
Please hold your "your a selfish prick" comments till the end. First off im not perfect, but i am in decent shape and working to get better all the time. My wife is simply not. She has put on a bit of wight in the last few years and only seems to be getting worse. Ive tried everything. I make suggestions I immediately buy her any fitness thing she seems interested in and i sacrifice my own comfort foods just so she wont see me eating things that she shouldn't be.

She tells me all the time how much she wants to get back in shape but all her efforts seem to be in spurts. A long hike here a gym membership there but nothing seems to stick. I am especially frustrated because when we started dating she was an all american D1 athlete and by all accounts in better shape then me. I love my wife and cherish her greatly but i just want her to be healthy. Please help ladies.



You can't. That is it, period and end of that discussion. My wife is 5'2" 220lbs on average and I can't get her to do shit. Been married 23 years, she is just flat our lazy. She blames her thyroid (which according to all the tests is under control with her meds) and its pure bull shit.

No one can get anyone to do anything, they have to want to do it themselves.

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TheSin
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Join date: Jun 2009
Posts: 103

Cheat on her with a hottie, let her find out, tell her you still love her but don't find her erm chunky look attractive. She when do the following, ask for a divorce, changes her ways , continue to be a lazy woman or chop your dick off!

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JonEightPackGuy
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Join date: Dec 2006
Posts: 2421

leith06 wrote:
thought id give an update for all the people that cared enough to comment. Im getting a divorce. i appreciate all the advice, but what it came down to was just the sad realization that we have drifted to far apart.



I know this is late as fuck to be adding to this but...

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IronClaws
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Join date: Nov 2011
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You could try and do things you enjoy doing together you don't even have to be doing the same things. I like running, my wife likes bike riding, we some-times do it together. You mentioned a long hike here and there, try to build up to doing them with her more commonly, stay on her ass about it. Make it some-thing you do together, Maybe some sport you both enjoy, friz-bee, hell anything.

Also keep in mind some people look good but can't jog ten feet down the road, try to badger her to do things together, things that improve all aspects of health, maybe if she feels more energy she'll be inspired.

People need to want to do things for themselves, but other people can inspire them. My wife inspired me greatly to get into fitness, hell, even complete strangers I've never met. Also keep in mind people don't change over-night, it might not be common but it does happen, and if you love that person some-times patience is necessary.

It doesn't take long to become truly fit(real strength takes longer) and excel at certain tasks if you drive hard at it and with some dedication in a year or two you might find that she's a better runner than you are, or a better endurance athlete or etc. I do know exactly how bad some people are, how in-grained habits and beliefs can be but there's always hope, so good luck!

Some of these suggestions here, probably aren't helpful if you actually care about the person and don't want to shatter them emotionally. That's always a gamble. It's always a good idea to take steps before a health scare though. GL

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Hallowed
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Join date: Aug 2010
Posts: 9597

JonEightPackGuy wrote:
leith06 wrote:
thought id give an update for all the people that cared enough to comment. Im getting a divorce. i appreciate all the advice, but what it came down to was just the sad realization that we have drifted to far apart.



I know this is late as fuck to be adding to this but...



Oh gawd I missed this amazing update.
Dump that Mother Fucker Already.
Dump her.

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Deercalf
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Join date: Jan 2010
Posts: 147

Hallowed wrote:
JonEightPackGuy wrote:
leith06 wrote:
thought id give an update for all the people that cared enough to comment. Im getting a divorce. i appreciate all the advice, but what it came down to was just the sad realization that we have drifted to far apart.



I know this is late as fuck to be adding to this but...



Oh gawd I missed this amazing update.
Dump that Mother Fucker Already.
Dump her.


I would agree with this, but then I would have to dump my gf...

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viper0213
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Join date: Dec 2008
Posts: 114

Toshiero wrote:
leith06 wrote:
Please hold your "your a selfish prick" comments till the end. First off im not perfect, but i am in decent shape and working to get better all the time. My wife is simply not. She has put on a bit of wight in the last few years and only seems to be getting worse. Ive tried everything. I make suggestions I immediately buy her any fitness thing she seems interested in and i sacrifice my own comfort foods just so she wont see me eating things that she shouldn't be.

She tells me all the time how much she wants to get back in shape but all her efforts seem to be in spurts. A long hike here a gym membership there but nothing seems to stick. I am especially frustrated because when we started dating she was an all american D1 athlete and by all accounts in better shape then me. I love my wife and cherish her greatly but i just want her to be healthy. Please help ladies.



You can't. That is it, period and end of that discussion. My wife is 5'2" 220lbs on average and I can't get her to do shit. Been married 23 years, she is just flat our lazy. She blames her thyroid (which according to all the tests is under control with her meds) and its pure bull shit.

No one can get anyone to do anything, they have to want to do it themselves.


I'm in the same situation. Nothing I've done has work.

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theBeth
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It's kinda gonna be the same no matter who you end up with? Unless you have some type of fucking awsome connection. Marriage is unnatural. It's the iron leash that breaks the spirit and keeps you from growing.

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conservativedog
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theBeth wrote:
It's kinda gonna be the same no matter who you end up with? Unless you have some type of fucking awsome connection. Marriage is unnatural. It's the iron leash that breaks the spirit and keeps you from growing.


So says the world.

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