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pat
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Spock81 wrote:
Okay so I have a couple things weighing heavily on my mind and maybe some of you have some advice or experience or something. If nothing else I will feel better talking about it!
So my kid is 6.5 and a real great, fun (smart) kiddo and we get along great. His dad has always been a big stresser because he's a pretty disgusting excuse for a human being. He had no involvement in gabe's life until a few years ago when he filed for partial custody. He was also in jail for a year and when he got out he got over night access with my kid.

Now this has really been hard on him. He hates it .. a lot. He says he hates his daddy and wants him to die . I asked what he was doing one day when I called from work and he said he was pretending to kill his dad! He says he wishes he had a different daddy and doesn't love him. He begs me to not make him sleep there but I have no choice. When he comes home he acts psycho. Like screaming about everything and smacking my hand away if I try to console him.

He yells a lot and is very very hard to tslk to. It lasts a couple days until daddy weekend wears off. Which is ok in the summer but back to school on monday is hard. He says he's scared if he accidently does something wrong and gets in trouble from daddy because he's scared to death of him. He can't wait until he is older so he can defend himself. But that scares me because his dad is very violent and I've seen him do some pretty vicious things.

All of this is really breaking my heart and I feel totally usless. Is there something I could do or someone to talk to or something? I dunno. My kid is usually so kind and sweet but he's a different person when he comes home.... anyway any suggestions would be great. Sorry for any typos I suck at typing with my phone and thanks for listening (reading)



Lawyer up and get that assholes rights taken away. I can actually help in a real sense, but I cannot do it. Here, since we do not have PM's I cannot give you my email. Crap.

Bottom line, it's worse when a parent is in and out versus just in or just out. It seems likely that he will fight more to piss you off, than for the kid.
The kid is angry? Well no shit. Look at his situ. He needs counseling and a full psych eval. You need to rule out other things and make sure it's just anger.
Don't be the idiot fucking parent that thinks their little angel is perfect. Do the right thing and get an eval because if there are other issues, early intervention is the best hope. Nobody's kids are perfect, not mine, not yours.


Killing dad in effigy is not normal behaviour even for an angry 6 yr old. Damn it, I need your email, or you need mine. I don't know how to get it to you. I am flat not going to post it. If there is a conduit that has my or your email.... I can help, but we need to talk out of this forum, privately. I need more info, and I can give you more info based on that. But this is private shit.
I am sorry for the situation, it sucks I know.

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RATTLEHEAD
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Join date: Jan 2012
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pat wrote:
Spock81 wrote:
Okay so I have a couple things weighing heavily on my mind and maybe some of you have some advice or experience or something. If nothing else I will feel better talking about it!
So my kid is 6.5 and a real great, fun (smart) kiddo and we get along great. His dad has always been a big stresser because he's a pretty disgusting excuse for a human being. He had no involvement in gabe's life until a few years ago when he filed for partial custody. He was also in jail for a year and when he got out he got over night access with my kid.

Now this has really been hard on him. He hates it .. a lot. He says he hates his daddy and wants him to die . I asked what he was doing one day when I called from work and he said he was pretending to kill his dad! He says he wishes he had a different daddy and doesn't love him. He begs me to not make him sleep there but I have no choice. When he comes home he acts psycho. Like screaming about everything and smacking my hand away if I try to console him.

He yells a lot and is very very hard to tslk to. It lasts a couple days until daddy weekend wears off. Which is ok in the summer but back to school on monday is hard. He says he's scared if he accidently does something wrong and gets in trouble from daddy because he's scared to death of him. He can't wait until he is older so he can defend himself. But that scares me because his dad is very violent and I've seen him do some pretty vicious things.

All of this is really breaking my heart and I feel totally usless. Is there something I could do or someone to talk to or something? I dunno. My kid is usually so kind and sweet but he's a different person when he comes home.... anyway any suggestions would be great. Sorry for any typos I suck at typing with my phone and thanks for listening (reading)



Lawyer up and get that assholes rights taken away. I can actually help in a real sense, but I cannot do it. Here, since we do not have PM's I cannot give you my email. Crap.

Bottom line, it's worse when a parent is in and out versus just in or just out. It seems likely that he will fight more to piss you off, than for the kid.
The kid is angry? Well no shit. Look at his situ. He needs counseling and a full psych eval. You need to rule out other things and make sure it's just anger.
Don't be the idiot fucking parent that thinks their little angel is perfect. Do the right thing and get an eval because if there are other issues, early intervention is the best hope. Nobody's kids are perfect, not mine, not yours.


Killing dad in effigy is not normal behaviour even for an angry 6 yr old. Damn it, I need your email, or you need mine. I don't know how to get it to you. I am flat not going to post it. If there is a conduit that has my or your email.... I can help, but we need to talk out of this forum, privately. I need more info, and I can give you more info based on that. But this is private shit.
I am sorry for the situation, it sucks I know.


uh why don't you just create a shitty hotmail account, get her to email it, you then have her email address, dingy the shitty account and email her on your professional one.....

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Testy1
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Join date: Jun 2004
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pat wrote:
Spock81 wrote:
Okay so I have a couple things weighing heavily on my mind and maybe some of you have some advice or experience or something. If nothing else I will feel better talking about it!
So my kid is 6.5 and a real great, fun (smart) kiddo and we get along great. His dad has always been a big stresser because he's a pretty disgusting excuse for a human being. He had no involvement in gabe's life until a few years ago when he filed for partial custody. He was also in jail for a year and when he got out he got over night access with my kid.

Now this has really been hard on him. He hates it .. a lot. He says he hates his daddy and wants him to die . I asked what he was doing one day when I called from work and he said he was pretending to kill his dad! He says he wishes he had a different daddy and doesn't love him. He begs me to not make him sleep there but I have no choice. When he comes home he acts psycho. Like screaming about everything and smacking my hand away if I try to console him.

He yells a lot and is very very hard to tslk to. It lasts a couple days until daddy weekend wears off. Which is ok in the summer but back to school on monday is hard. He says he's scared if he accidently does something wrong and gets in trouble from daddy because he's scared to death of him. He can't wait until he is older so he can defend himself. But that scares me because his dad is very violent and I've seen him do some pretty vicious things.

All of this is really breaking my heart and I feel totally usless. Is there something I could do or someone to talk to or something? I dunno. My kid is usually so kind and sweet but he's a different person when he comes home.... anyway any suggestions would be great. Sorry for any typos I suck at typing with my phone and thanks for listening (reading)



Lawyer up and get that assholes rights taken away. I can actually help in a real sense, but I cannot do it. Here, since we do not have PM's I cannot give you my email. Crap.

Bottom line, it's worse when a parent is in and out versus just in or just out. It seems likely that he will fight more to piss you off, than for the kid.
The kid is angry? Well no shit. Look at his situ. He needs counseling and a full psych eval. You need to rule out other things and make sure it's just anger.
Don't be the idiot fucking parent that thinks their little angel is perfect. Do the right thing and get an eval because if there are other issues, early intervention is the best hope. Nobody's kids are perfect, not mine, not yours.


Killing dad in effigy is not normal behaviour even for an angry 6 yr old. Damn it, I need your email, or you need mine. I don't know how to get it to you. I am flat not going to post it. If there is a conduit that has my or your email.... I can help, but we need to talk out of this forum, privately. I need more info, and I can give you more info based on that. But this is private shit.
I am sorry for the situation, it sucks I know.


Make a temporary address with a service you don't currently use like gmail, hotmail, yahoo

edit: Dammit! not quick enough

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pat
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Join date: Oct 2002
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RATTLEHEAD wrote:
pat wrote:
Spock81 wrote:
Okay so I have a couple things weighing heavily on my mind and maybe some of you have some advice or experience or something. If nothing else I will feel better talking about it!
So my kid is 6.5 and a real great, fun (smart) kiddo and we get along great. His dad has always been a big stresser because he's a pretty disgusting excuse for a human being. He had no involvement in gabe's life until a few years ago when he filed for partial custody. He was also in jail for a year and when he got out he got over night access with my kid.

Now this has really been hard on him. He hates it .. a lot. He says he hates his daddy and wants him to die . I asked what he was doing one day when I called from work and he said he was pretending to kill his dad! He says he wishes he had a different daddy and doesn't love him. He begs me to not make him sleep there but I have no choice. When he comes home he acts psycho. Like screaming about everything and smacking my hand away if I try to console him.

He yells a lot and is very very hard to tslk to. It lasts a couple days until daddy weekend wears off. Which is ok in the summer but back to school on monday is hard. He says he's scared if he accidently does something wrong and gets in trouble from daddy because he's scared to death of him. He can't wait until he is older so he can defend himself. But that scares me because his dad is very violent and I've seen him do some pretty vicious things.

All of this is really breaking my heart and I feel totally usless. Is there something I could do or someone to talk to or something? I dunno. My kid is usually so kind and sweet but he's a different person when he comes home.... anyway any suggestions would be great. Sorry for any typos I suck at typing with my phone and thanks for listening (reading)



Lawyer up and get that assholes rights taken away. I can actually help in a real sense, but I cannot do it. Here, since we do not have PM's I cannot give you my email. Crap.

Bottom line, it's worse when a parent is in and out versus just in or just out. It seems likely that he will fight more to piss you off, than for the kid.
The kid is angry? Well no shit. Look at his situ. He needs counseling and a full psych eval. You need to rule out other things and make sure it's just anger.
Don't be the idiot fucking parent that thinks their little angel is perfect. Do the right thing and get an eval because if there are other issues, early intervention is the best hope. Nobody's kids are perfect, not mine, not yours.


Killing dad in effigy is not normal behaviour even for an angry 6 yr old. Damn it, I need your email, or you need mine. I don't know how to get it to you. I am flat not going to post it. If there is a conduit that has my or your email.... I can help, but we need to talk out of this forum, privately. I need more info, and I can give you more info based on that. But this is private shit.
I am sorry for the situation, it sucks I know.


uh why don't you just create a shitty hotmail account, get her to email it, you then have her email address, dingy the shitty account and email her on your professional one.....


If spock wants to, I can do something like that.

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TheJonty
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Could probably find her on facebook too if you're on there. I could find her again on there (used to be friends, wasn't holding up my end of the facebook friend contract I guess) but thinking about it that's not much help cause I don't know if I know anybody else on here.

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Spock81
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Woah I didn't know this thread was still alive, sorry! You could make up another account if you don't mind. I think if I just told you my email addy it would get deleted ..

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Spock81
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TheJonty wrote:
Could probably find her on facebook too if you're on there. I could find her again on there (used to be friends, wasn't holding up my end of the facebook friend contract I guess) but thinking about it that's not much help cause I don't know if I know anybody else on here.



Scrabble cheater!!!!!!

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pat
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Spock81 wrote:
Woah I didn't know this thread was still alive, sorry! You could make up another account if you don't mind. I think if I just told you my email addy it would get deleted ..


Well, I just ran across it. My participation has been spotty on TNation lately. How are things? Better, worse, or the same?

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